I tell my clients all the time not to worry so much about what other people think of them. First you have to consider the source. Your abusive, generally absent father told you that you would never amount to anything. Now that you’re grown and know what a good father is, do you REALLY care what that lazy joker thought? Is THIS the man you would ask for an honest appraisal of your worth?
Second, you have to remember that whenever you choose something – anything! – there are going to be just a WHOLE lot of people who think you are dead wrong! Some will think it so fervently that they’re willing to take action against you. Those actions run the gamut between a stern frown, a good talking to, and outright persecution, prosecution and imprisonment. Italian or ranch, paper or plastic, democrat or republican. People get mighty riled up about all of it.
As a lifelong student of psychology, I am both amused and frightened when I witness people of different political persuasions going at it. Especially if these people are all friends of mine. People I love who have opened their homes to me, listened to my private torments and shared in my joyous triumphs grow cold if I even mention that, during the few times I watch the news, I’m usually watching FOX.
Honestly, I’ve watched a lot of news shows and with the exception of some “correspondent” relating an opinion piece, they’re all basically the same: A bunch of talking chuckleheads looking solemn during the story about the bus crash, then yucking it up through the puff piece about the prize winner in a doggie costume contest. I listen, but I don’t – and here’s the important part – I DON’T base my opinions on what the news anchors read to me.
As a counselor, I know better than ANYONE that there are two sides to every story. And I don’t care HOW fair and balanced you might think you are, you betray your individual slant the moment you open your mouth. Which is okay with me. You’re entitled to your opinion. But guess what? So am I. And since no one has agreed to let us to settle the issue once and for all, why can’t we just live and let live?
Take ObamaCare. Last spring some of my friends were defending it as the savior of the western world. When I voiced my misgivings, I was told to stop being racist and just give it a chance! Well, okay, what choice did I have? So a year passed and I’ve been asking around but have yet to find one of these proponents who has actually signed up for the program.
So what did all that raving last year actually accomplish? Zip, zilch, nada. But if I mention that, from what I have seen, ObamaCare has actually decreased both the quality and the quantity of healthcare my clients receive, I get the same answer I got last year. I just hate Obama and that’s THAT! Heck, I don’t even KNOW the man. Does anyone, really? Where does the politician end and the person begin? All I know for sure is that I don’t want his job!