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Dear Susan: My son married a woman with two daughters and they now have a baby boy. Even though I’m not particularly fond of my son’s wife, I make it a point to remember her and her daughters on birthdays and at Christmas. I try very hard to pick nice gifts and often have a […]

Family Feud

Monday , 27, January 2014 Comments Off

There are lots of theories about how families operate.  Most agree that individuals assume certain roles within the group.  You’ve got the Pretty One, the Smart One, the Peacekeeper, the Organizer.  Many families also pick a scapegoat who then becomes responsible for anything that goes wrong.  This unfortunate is known as the Problem, or, as […]

Dear Susan: I really shouldn’t have anything to complain about.  I have a good marriage and a couple of good kids.  My job is interesting.  We’re comfortable financially.  We have, friends, family, church.  I should be happy, but I think about ending my life almost everyday.  I put on a smile for my wife and […]

Most weekends I make it to church and slog through a bunch of routine chores – cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, laundry.  But for the bulk of my time off, I lounge on the couch binge-watching shows like Futurama and Workaholics.  (Have I mentioned that my tastes in comedy run decidedly low?)  Then Monday comes and […]

Dear Susan: I’m a divorced father of three grown children and the grandfather to eight.  I can’t seem to keep my spending under control.  I live on a fixed income and so this is getting to be a real problem.  I overdraw my account almost every month, then write bad checks and take out pay-day […]

Many of my clients know that I keep a thick piece of foam tucked away in a corner of my office along with a blanket and pillow.  On days that I’m not feeling well I will spend my lunch hour bedded down on the floor with the lights out and the fan humming away.  I […]

Dear Susan: My mom got into legal troubles when I was younger and so I had to go live with my grandmother.  I’m still there, but I work, go to school and pay my grandmother rent.  The problem is my aunts and uncles all come over to the house whenever they want like they own […]

I’ve been unfortunate enough to have testified in a couple of child custody cases.  I know other therapists who hate doing this SO MUCH that they charge ridiculous amounts for a court appearance hoping to dissuade anyone from taking them up on it.  ($800 plus travel?!  Are you KIDDING me?!)  Of course, it IS so […]

Dear Susan: My father has always cheated on my mom, starting on their wedding day, if you believe her.  Yet she has never left him for long.  When I was a kid, I heard about my father’s affairs all the time.  My mother even took me with her when she tried to track down my […]

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